I just returned from a week’s vacation, visiting my daughter who lives thousands of miles away. Now, since I’m back “Over the Hill on the Yellow Brick Road,” I’m feeling angry, hurt, and as if I’ve been left behind. Walking along the Yellow Brick Road, I was glad to hear a pile of soil on the ground calling out to me. The soil said:
SOIL: Hey you, I know how it is.
What? What do you mean?
SOIL: You have the “I wish I could adjust to being left behind” look on your face. I’d know it anywhere. I’m in the same place.
SOIL: Well, about a year ago, a seed came into my life. I hugged her under the ground so tightly I almost squashed her to death. I was just trying to keep her safe and warm.
I did the same with my daughter when she was a baby.
SOIL: Yeah. Whenever it rained, I did everything I could to be sure my seed was nourished with water. And miraculously, she grew roots.
I gave my daughter roots, too.
SOIL: But, my seed’s roots grew bigger and wider. Sometimes it drove me crazy, trying to figure out how to keep her nourished, and continuing to hold her in place, even when she made it difficult.
I’ve been there.
SOIL: And then…things started to fall apart. When I least expected it, my seed shoved herself above the ground. She grew a stem and kept growing higher and higher. She kept growing further and further away from me.
Welcome to my world.
SOIL: Then she grew thorns on her stem! Who told her to do that? Not me!
Sounds like my daughter’s tattoos. Not my personal favorite.
SOIL: I guess those are just parts of who they are. Anyway, at this point, my seed is a fully grown rose.
SOIL: Thank you. But her stem is so tall and far from the ground, if I want to talk to her, I have to scream my guts out.
Most of the time, I talk to my daughter through some kind of a screen. It’s not the same as speaking to her face to face. I hate it.
SOIL: What’s up with this???? Why is this happening?
I don’t know! But leaving my daughter was so hard this time. Accepting I won’t see her in person very often makes me want to give up. I want to somehow separate myself from the pain. And move on!
SOIL: It breaks my heart when I realize no matter how hard I cry or how loudly I whine, my rose is never coming back down here.
Although…you know…you can never really separate from your rose. And I can never really separate from my daughter.
SOIL: Why not?
Because we carry their roots. And deep down, I think they appreciate knowing we support them.
SOIL: I guess in that way…we’ll never really be left behind.
How do you handle being left behind?
Note: A special, heartfelt thank you to baffledmum at: https://baffledmum.com/2018/04/25/giving-up/ Her post about “giving up” really inspired me. Check it out!